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October 17, 2007

Room to Grow...

Godmoving

Greetings, Friends!
Susie Larson here...

And to those visiting, I say welcome!

I post every Wednesday and my sole purpose is to nourish your soul along the way.

With two kids in college and one in high school, I frequently catch myself pondering the past or musing about the future.

I feel happy about the things I did right as a parent, and I wince when I think of my mistakes.

One day I asked my oldest son this question, "Jake, what was the one thing I did most right in raising you? And what was my biggest mistake?"

His reply surprised me. "Mom, you were the best mom in the world to me. You had a super high standard in the things of faith, integrity, and respect. And yet, you gave us room to breathe and didn't expect us to be perfect to make you look good. Your biggest mistake? Well, I would say it was the way you beat yourself up when you made a mistake. Mom, we love God, we love each other, and we really love you and dad. We have everything we need. We've had a great life."

He was right. My problem was never in admitting my mistake, it was more so in my capacity for condemnation.

Not always, but sometimes it took me longer than necessary to let myself off the hook and accept God's gracious forgiveness for the times I'd blown it.

God makes provision for our weaknesses, which is a blessed, wonderful thing.

Just as He is perfectly happy to give our kids room to grow, He also gives us room to grow.

Most of the time we learn from our mistakes and we're better because of them.

As our kids approach their teen years, they also need some room to grow, room to breathe, and room to make a few mistakes that they might learn some valuable lessons while they're still under our care.

While we can get away with controlling our toddler (and we should); trying to do the same thing to a teenager will surely backfire. I'm convinced that our kids will actually lose their confidence if we insist on controlling every choice they make.

As parents of teens, we need to be more involved than ever, but our strategy must change.

When they're young, it's important to carefully guide our children in the matters of right and wrong.

When they're older, it's still important, but they have to be allowed to feel a few consequences while they are still under our roof.

Read on...

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